Virgin's Den

Promoting Virginity Through Abstinence


   Hi my name is Chl÷e, I am 17 years old and have had to make some pretty hard decisions on my path to         adulthood.  I wanted to start this site to let people know it is okay not to have sex and why it is better to remain a virgin. I also want to build a place where like minded people can hang out and share ideas and concerns. I am also providing a "Purity Pledge" that you can print out and hang on your wall. Choose the one that best suits your lifestyle.

Everybody knows there are lots of reasons to have sex, but nobody ever says why you shouldn't. I am going to throw out a few of my ideas:

Reasons not to have sex:

    1] You never have to worry if you are pregnant.
    2] You will never have to worry that it will get out that you are "easy" or a slut.
    3] You won't have a low self esteem.
    4] It's very messy and disgusting.
    5] It hurts for more than just the first time.
    6] You won't have to hide things from your family.
    7] You won't have to worry that you caught an STD.
    8] You will feel better about yourself for exercising self control by not letting someone else control what happens to your body

Boys and girls are wired different from each other. In fact, they are so different, I don't see how they can exist on the same planet! To a girl, sex is for making babies, not for fun or recreation. When a girl looks at a boy she is interested in, she is judging if he will make nice looking babies? Is he fit enough to protect the family? Can he provide for the family? Will he stick around and help raise the children? Does he smell bad? Also, girls are a social group. They like hanging with their "sisters". They talk about everything. A lot has to happen before a girl will let a boy sleep with her.

Boys, on the other hand, are for the most part, loners. They live in caves and when the group together, usually in front of a fire, they brag about their "conquests". When it comes to girls, they are not picky. Inherently they want as many offspring as they can make. But they don't want to pay child support or stick around and help with the kids. They have a very narrow set of requirements: Can I get in her pants? Will it feel good to have sex with her? That's about all there is to the thought process. There isn't any thought as to what she looks like, smells like or is she clean. No thought about what her babies would look like or what kind of mother she would be. The sex drive of the young male is overwhelming. It consumes all waking moments. They would kill or die just to get in a girl's pants. They would stop at nothing to get as far up inside her as they could. They would lie, cheat and steal. They would also drug the girl if they thought they could get away with it. So don't believe it when they say they love you and will be with you always. And always carry your drink with you! (So nobody can put anything in it!) Stay away from alcohol, you don't know how fast that stuff sneaks up on you!

So here are some ideas:

    1] Have lots of friends of your own sex.
    2]Save the dating scene for when you are finished with school. Be able to provide for yourself rather that "find" a rich husband. Be a doctor or an attorney if you want!
    3] Don't succumb to peer pressure. They don't have to live with the consequences.
    4] If you feel the urge, take care of it yourself in private. Don't try to ignore it, it won't go away.
    5] Take a Purity Pledge and mean it.
    6] Talk about your feelings with your friends. If they are good friends, they will understand you and still care about you.

I hope this is enough to get this website started. I am not an expert or experienced. I am only drawing on my common sense. Please visit my forum, start a thread or join the discussion. I look forward to hearing from you!

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